Marriage
My wedding comments this morning sprouted into lengthly conversations from Jeff’s blog (one, two). Today I have thought about wedding & marriages. Getting all of my thoughts into a cohesive lump is difficult so I’ll attempt to spit out points.
- The reason I reblogged the video was because Jamie said “Why do half of marriages fail? Because most don’t start like this!” I know she is joking but I have an interest in curbing divorces after Monsignor Enlow explained that the Catholic church has it as a goal. That is why Beth & I met with a handful of times to discuss ourselves, expectations, and marriage. I appreciate the investment of time the church has made in us and others. I wish all couples talking about marriage like we did before ours began.
- I never felt closer to God & Church than the day before & after my wedding.
- I believe that celebration is appropriate in a church but a five minute dance number is not. I believe they were doing this because it was fun and also to get attention.
- I can’t help but believe that spending the time and energy on the dance number took away from the more serious goal of the ceremony & day. It’s an assumption but I believe they have it coming.
- Having a wedding in a church means that there are rules and accepted behavior that come with it. This couple’s church obviously has a different set of expectations than every church I have been in but that is ok. I don’t feel threatened by their church’s views. I don’t know how they got away with it because I assume that dance numbers aren’t part of their weekly service.
- I began to dislike the excess planning, supplies, time, money, etc. that comes form a wedding, including my own. If I was going to do it again I would spend less time on the details that people may have talked about but overall didn’t affect anyone. Maybe this is why I have a negative opinion of the video.
